Alot of questions only one bride to be!!!!?
Ok so I got online tonight because I am planning to get married either fall or summer. I can’t seem to decide on anything. So, the only things I know I want are the dresses, I know what photographer I want and where I want to take pictures, and who is going to be in my wedding. I think I have decided on a song that will be "ours". Other than that I am at a loss. SO here are a few questions, for anyone with some advice. I want my wedding to be memorable but not classic. My fiancé is in a wheel chair so keep that in mind. (Destination weddings are out!) Due to that fact we will not be dancing but I am not sure I should skip a dj or band because I know people enjoy that sort of thing. I know that the pictures are like almost the most important thing to me so I am thinking of doing a buffet at the reception so people will have something to do while the wedding party is off doing photos. Give me some ideas on what to serve. Should I do it at night or in the daytime.Oh no I am out of letters
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Ok, First thing to do is to sit down with your fiance and pick a date. Since pictures are really important to you- call the place you want to have the pics taken and ask them what the area looks like at that time. I got married on Oct. 14th and it was absolutely gorgeous- but you’re taking a risk in the fall of having no leaves on the trees if they change quickly. Pictures are usually taken during the cocktail hour (serve cold cuts, finger sandwhiches, crackers and cheese to keep the guests happy. Buffets should include at least two choices of meat (Ham, Roast Beef, maybe a fish) roasted or mashed potatoes, a seasonal vegetable, and salad. If you are going to choose a fall wedding I would suggest a soup to start with. Most people expect music at the wedding, so I wouldn’t skip the DJ or band. Best of luck and Congratulations!
It sound like you have it all planned. You know what you wont .
So first pick the dress you want. Then by the style you can determine if it should be in the summer or fall and you can also narrow down the location. You don’t want a big puffy dress for a summer garden wedding…
We aren’t having any dancing/DJ at our wedding. I picked a daytime wedding, that way we saved on money because we didn’t have to serve a full meal. We are just doing fruit/veggies and some croissant sandwiches.
You should try to envision your day and follow that vision. I do agree that music is a good idea–you want your guests to enjoy themselves, even if you won’t be dancing. Afternoon is better for something more casual, but evening might be better for dinner and candles, etc…
Since your fiance is or was the front man of a band, I think the band should be playing & him singing if possible at your reception, hun. People who are there to celebrate with you do know that’s he’s in a wheelchair, and I too have seen guys in chairs out on the floor. (and NIB rocks!)
I think a buffet is fine, but I also like the idea of taking your pictures ahead of time - I hate waiting while people do their photos! (I once went to a formal wedding that started at 2pm and they had "cocktails" for two hours while the bridal party took their pictures. It was rude to take so long, and by the time dinner came, a lot of folks were hammered!) And again a band will help keep folks entertained.
Time slot is up to you & your venue. Usually an afternoon wedding is more casual than evening.
Sounds like you’re doing fine - it will all fall into place. Good Luck!
Do what is meaningful and fun for the two of you - NOT what society/family demands.
If you won’t be dancing, provide music for the reception (CDs are fine) but you don’t need to provide a band if you won’t dance. Definetly give people something to eat while you do pictures. That helps a lot. Also, you can do individual photos before the ceremony - you & bridesmaids, him & groomsmen, family shots, etc. And food depends on your location too - some places require you to use their food if you have a reception there.
There are some really neat vows out there on the internet. My husband & I found some we liked & reworded them a little so we had fairly traditional but unique vows. We also had our wedding & reception in the same room so everyone didn’t have to mess with traffic or parking, and they enjoyed the buffet while we finished a few pictures, then we joined them. Less to decorate that way, too.
Congratulations! May your wedding day be as happy as mine was, and every day thereafter!
Normally while the family is off doign photos you serve appetizers…thne you come back, announce the new married couple, make a speech (to replace the first dance) start the dinner…
I think you should still have a dj as guests enjoy it and I am sure your father will want to dance with you.
i hope that your fiance being in a wheel chair isnt your only reason for not dancing people in wheel chairs can dance to bot something easy to serve would be fruits and veggies and sandwiches or you could get frozen lasagnas or maybe a big pot of spaghetti and meatballs
We didn’t have any dancing or music at our reception, because we sat and thought about it and said "This our day, it’s about us. We don’t like to dance, so why would we?" Nobody missed it, because we had a cookout and everyone enjoyed sitting around and talking. Since it was like a miniature family reunion for his family (mine didn’t show) I think they liked it.
I’m all for having something for your guests to do while you do photos, but one suggestion is do the seperate photos before the wedding. All bridal party members, then all groom’s party members. The together shots can wait for after and won’t take as long. In theory, that didn’t work at my wedding, but anyway…
Though if you don’t mind him seeing you in your dress beforehand (I’m superstitious) then just do all the pictures beforehand.
Make sure you think about what your guests might want to eat. I knew a vegetarian that got married and insisted on an all vegetable reception, everyone hated it.
Memorable weddings are mostly made by the people who are there. Just make sure that each touch is about you and your fiance and your love for each other.
OK first off don’t skip the music…just because your fiancee is in wheelchair doesn’t mean that you can’t dance. People in wheelchairs dance and play sports like basketball…if they can do that they can definitely dance. I think a buffet is a great idea…it is less formal though keep that in mind. My cousin had a buffet while the wedding party was taking photos and it worked out great; probably much easier on her too. I would do an early evening reception. You can also take most of the wedding party photos in between the ceremony and the reception so that you can enjoy your whole reception. As for what to serve, look for a local caterer in your area or ask friends if they have used anyone then talk to them about what to serve they will be able to give you a better idea of what they have and if they have specials and they will prepare everything for you and set it up for you so it’s one less thing to worry about on your special day. Congrats, and I’m sure it’ll be beautiful no matter what you do.
try going to theknot.com they have a bunch of ideas for receptions and planning sheets to help make sure you aren’t forgetting anything.
normally you wait to have dinner after you and your attendants arrive. so while they wait, maybe have a 1 or 2 drink limit cocktail hour or something if it’s in your budget.
and with a buffet, what my cousin did was the "sweetheart" table where the happy couple and bridal party sit get to go get food first, and then on each table there was a card with a song name. then, when that song was played (the dj would announce the title) that table knew they could go up and get food. (they had a medium-large wedding) so it helped with crowding.
but congrats and good luck!
Have a dj or at least load an I pod w/the music you want to play and add some speakers. I did that and it worked great since you can make playlists and stuff. Definitely do a buffet, I did that too and it worked great, just make sure you have enough food. Always order for 10 extra people even if you haven’t invited 10 extra people. You can do beef, chicken and sides like a rice pilaf. Check out some cateres that have menus online and see what they offer for weddings and go from there. My wedding was in the afternoon…it went from about 4 until 10 and that was perfect (I got married on a Sunday) I wanted to be close to the water so I got married at a park near the beach and it was BEAUTIFUL, and since we weren’t down on the beach, sand wasn’t everywhere. Check some wedding sites and see whats there…
Don’t over pay you can do it all without over paying.. that being said the best advice i can give you is don’t skimp on food dancing or drinks. i have had my own wedding and 2 others within 3 months of eachother in the family trust me people go for CAKE FOOD BEER AND DANCING.